4 Ways to Invest in Your Relationship
Being in a relationship can be really hard work, especially if you’ve just gone through the pandemic together, are navigating having young children, or just trying to balance having a career and everything else. If you’re not careful, it’s very easy to let your relationship fall to the back of the priorities list. The truth is, when we’re happy in our primary relationship, every other part of our lives looks and feels better. So with this in mind, it’s important to invest in your relationship to ensure its success and stability, so you have a happy and healthy foundation for which to build the rest of your life. If you’re looking for some ways to invest in your relationship, keep reading to learn more.
1. Make a Regular Date Time
One of the best things I’ve done for my marriage is to schedule in a regular date time once a week that doesn’t get shifted around. During that time we properly catch up on each other’s week, plans for the coming weeks, and discuss our wins. In the past when we had vague ideas for going on a date once a week, we would often get to the end of the week and realize we hadn’t gone anywhere or done anything, again. Making it a set time that doesn’t shift means that we also make time for it and finish the week off knowing our relationship is a priority. Try doing something fun together – maybe you could go to an art class where you’d be drawing or painting a naked model. Maybe you could go skydiving together, set up a picnic outside somewhere beautiful, or even try that new restaurant you’ve been dying to try. Whatever you choose, make sure that you keep your set date time in place and make your partner know what a priority they are.
2. Try Therapy
You might feel like you don’t need therapy but the reality is most couples need it and almost everyone on the planet could benefit from some therapy. It can be a great way to get rid of recurring issues that keep surfacing without any real resolution. You’ve both grown up in completely different environments, with different habits and expectations that you might not even be aware of. Therapy can be a great way to help unpack some of these things and figure out healthier ways to deal with conflicts. Whether you’re in a pocketing relationship or wanting to explore other relationship types, getting therapy can be a great way to lay everything on the table and to hopefully take your intimacy to a whole new level.
3. Go on a Holiday Together
There’s nothing like a holiday to put a little spark into your relationship or marriage. Going somewhere new, doing fun things together, eating out and trying new restaurants… it’s really a blast! Of course where you can go depends on your budget and finances, but even if you don’t have enough money to go on a faraway adventure together, you can try some cheaper alternatives like a staycation or even trying to do a house swap with someone you know. Getting out of the daily routine which can often feel like a rut can be a great way to inject a little magic into your love life. Try to do new things together, especially things that may be pushing you to your limits, as this can be a great way to bond deeper and to take your relationship to a new level.
4. Treat Them Like a Stranger
Sometimes we get so comfortable with our partners that we begin to take them for granted. We can even start to be short or frustrated with them, often not affording them the same courtesies that we would give to strangers. If you’re really critical and realize that you’re maybe treating strangers better than you’d treat your partner, then you should soon realize there’s a problem here. If your partner is the most important in your life, then the way you treat them should reflect that. Avoid talking badly about your partner to friends and family, even if it’s in a venting capacity. It’s a slippery slope to get into. You want to be respectful of your partner at all times, especially when they’re not around.
Your relationship is your most important relationship, so you should treat it as such. I hope these tips for how you can invest in your relationship help you come up with some good ideas for putting your partner first and strengthening your bond.